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3 Steps for A Better Emotional Self

Declutter Your ‘Emotional Closet’ In 3 Easy Steps

by Wasifa Ahmad Hasan

3 Steps for A Better Emotional Self


The way you face your challenges – both large and small – can either lead you to true happiness or block you from ever attaining it.

“It can be difficult to resolve our personal issues and move forward when we have a lifetime of hidden baggage blocking our way,” says Sheri D. Engler, medium and metaphysicist, with a background in psychology, and author of The Pearls of Wisdom: A Fairytale Guide to Life’s Magic Secrets for All Ages (www.thepearlsofwisdombook.com).

“We take time to go through our clothes closets and toss out what is outdated or doesn’t fit. But do we do that with our emotions? Cleaning out your emotional closet will help separate who you are now from who you used to be.  It can be life changing to realize that your present self has been held captive by past memories and experiences that, in actuality, bear no relevance today. This damage can unnecessarily stick with us for years, even lifetimes.”

3 Steps for A Better Emotional Self

In her work as an intuitive/life coach, Engler says she sees encouraging success with a simple 3-step technique, which she calls “Instant Self-Therapy.” She says, “It requires asking ourselves simple questions- listening to our sometimes surprising answers- and gladly letting go of one issue after another. It’s like shampooing your psyche—wash, rinse, and repeat. It’s a matter of being conscious of the critical difference between who you’ve been and who you are now. Without the extra baggage of outdated beliefs, you can move more easily through the open door of who you want to be, who you were meant to be.”


The 3 steps are as follows:


Step 1) The Self Quiz –

Write down on separate slips of paper the emotional issues you’d like to overcome, particularly targeting experiences you feel have damaged you. Note when it first began and the undesirable conditions that developed as a result. Lay out all the slips on a table with a wastebasket nearby. Read one issue at a time, and then ask yourself these questions:

“Does this past experience have anything to do with the person I am now? Does it truly still bother me? Is it possible I overcame this long ago, or do I need to keep carrying it with me? Am I okay right now and going forward?”

Chances are strong that you will answer: “I’m not that person anymore. I’ve already gotten over that, and I see now that it’s not worth holding onto.” At this point, you joyfully wad up that outdated version of yourself, shoot it into the wastebasket and go to the next paper and repeat the process until the table is clear. It’s then that you realize that you need to update your emotional operating system at least as often your phone’s! It’s a simple matter of mindfulness. By asking yourself the right questions, you can proactively change the course of your life through the enlightening answers you get. This brings us to the next step.

3 Steps for A Better Emotional Self


Step 2) Create Your F.A.T.E. –

Engler says, “In order to effect true change in your life, use the quantum law of attraction.” In The Pearls of Wisdom, the angel’s note says, ‘When spirit joins with heart, mind, and body—as One and of One—only then shall you truly see that ALL things are a possibility.’

It’s easiest to remember this magical secret by using the acronym ‘F.A.T.E.’ The simple key is to align your Feelings, Actions, and Thoughts to create your desired Experience. To put it even simpler, if you can pretend to the extent that every part of you believes that your wish has already happened, then the quantum field of manifestation will match that state and make it so. Ultimately, the universe cannot decide things for you, it can only give you more of what you already believe to be true. So, carefully choose your feelings, thoughts, and actions—then by the law of the Universe—it will appear like Magic!

Moving on, after you have become conscious of your current feelings and decluttered your emotional closet; and after you’ve become mindful of what you truly want in your life and understand how to “create your fate”, you are then ready for your final step.

3 Steps for A Better Emotional Self

Step 3) Forgiveness and Gratitude 

Forgive yourself and others for all harm and damage and never look back. Engler says, “When you look back, you re-engage your past self and abandon your freshly de-cluttered present self… To anchor your positive life changes, you must try to stay in gratitude by focusing upon that which is good about yourself, about others, and about your life overall. Like attracts like. Whatever you project – is what the Universe will assume you have chosen for yourself – and it will give you more of the same. So be mindful of who you are now and the choices you make now, and you’ll give both the Universe and yourself something to smile about!”

3 Steps for A Better Emotional Self


About Sheri D. Engler

Sheri D. Engler is the author/illustrator of The Pearls of Wisdom: A Fairy Tale Guide to Life’s Magic Secrets for All Ages (www.ThePearlsOfWisdomBook.com). She is an experienced mentor, medium, and metaphysicist with a background in psychology, counseling and research. She received a BA in Clinical Psychology at San Francisco State University. (All proceeds from the book go to Angel WhispersFoundation, a female empowerment organization.)



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